I don't think a person is capable of loving someone they don't trust.
I don't want to be a secret. Some men have tried to become a part of my life.... while not inviting me to be a part of theirs.
It feels untruthful. I'm not willing to be a part of anyone's lie, even if the one they are lieing to is themself.
I explained my feelings about these types of matters and situation in much greater detail many times.
One person can not do all the sharing. It is unbalanced.